THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK

Kill yourself, you are not special, happiness is a problem…Not the usual chapters for a ‘self-help’ book but Mark Manson keeps readers engaged by sprinkling in these types of bold statements. I know it worked on me and it’ll probably work on you too.

In today’s book of the day, ‘THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK’Mark Manson talks about the importance of suffering in pursuit of true fulfillment. There are a few books that talk about this concept already like ‘The Happiness Hypothesis’, ‘Think and Grow Rich’, and ‘ The Power of Now’ to name a few. A new point that Manson makes is that there is no value in suffering without a purpose. Whether it’s in business or in a relationship we always tend to inflict unnecessary pain on ourselves that doesn’t make us better or teach us anything.

Not all pain is created equal, of course, we have physical pain and emotional pain but they both serve the same purpose. To teach us when we do something wrong and give us immediate feedback so we learn not to do it again (hopefully). That is essentially how we grow, we learn from thousands of tiny failures piled up over time (pain), and the number of failures we have determines the amount of success we are able to achieve.

True happiness comes from improvement, and we can’t get better at something until we fail or at least try. The key is to take responsibility for every failure, don’t play the victim of your circumstances, and know there is a purpose for the pain you’re experiencing.

Am I Truly Living?

It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it.

On The Shortness of Life – Seneca

On The Shortness of Life was a quick read but one of the most thought provoking books that I’ve read in a while. It made me realize how much of our life we waste on things that have no value, things that we will forget even happened.

We are willing to take our most valuable asset and give it away without thinking twice about it. Seneca Says we should imagine that we know exactly how many days we have left to live and start being more selective with how we spend that time. If you knew you only had 6 days to live you probably wouldn’t waste any time watching youtube videos or talking to people you don’t like.

The truth is that we do have a limited time on this planet and we spend most of it like we have an infinite amount. The biggest regret of the dying is wishing they had the courage to live a life true to themselves, not the life others expected of them. Think about this and reflect on past years, could you have done more with the time you had?

Personal Review

I may not be the most qualified as a 21-year old to talk about regret and old age but I see it all around me every day. I have family members and friends (myself included) that don’t value time as they should.

One of my biggest fears is growing old and having no successes to show for it, or even worse, not having tried to succeed at all.

I Had To Give In Just One Last Time…

I know I said I was done reading self-help books but this one has been on my reading list since the beginning of time. Or at least since I’ve started reading books towards the end of 2018.

To be fair, The One Thing by Garry Keller isn’t entirely a self-help book. I consider it a productivity book that happens to include some ‘self-help’ elements. It over exactly what high achievers do to ignore distractions and reach their goals.

Imagine having the blueprint for extreme productivity, the secrets that Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, and Bill Gates all used to achieve unexplainable success in their lives.

That’d be nice, right?…

Although I can’t explain exactly what they did to achieve their success, I can do the next best thing and tell you what they have in common. I’ll start by breaking down the main idea from The One Thing, and explain how you can follow the same steps to reach your own goals.

Start by creating a to-do list, out of that list pick out 20% of things you should do, then shorten that list even further to just ONE THING you MUST do before anything else. Gary Keller talks about the inefficiency that comes from trying to multitask by saying ” Multitasking is a lie. It’s just the opportunity to mess more than 1 thing up at the same time.”

If you have trouble coming up with your One Thing, ask yourself this question “What is the one thing I can do such that by doing it everything will be easier or unnecessary?”. Dig deep for the answer, the most important things don’t always scream the loudest.

Block time out of your day with no distractions to get your One Thing done early in the morning when your willpower is at its highest (preferably 4 hours a day). Use this time to complete the task that is the most impactful, be intentionally productive and momentum should carry you for the rest of the day.

The Highly Productive Person’s Daily Energy Plan

  1. Meditate or pray for spiritual energy.
  2. Eat right, exercise, and sleep sufficiently for physical energy.
  3. Hug, kiss, and laugh with loved ones for emotional energy.
  4. Set goals, plan, and calendar for mental energy.
  5. Time block your ONE Thing for business energy.

Personal Review

Great book if you struggle with productivity or procrastination, I’ve been much more intentional and aware of what I invest my time in. (Part of the reason why I’m writing this instead of watching Tiktok videos). It’s been difficult to do and I don’t expect it to get any easier until it becomes a habit to concentrate so much energy on one thing.

Of course, I have my doubts about the effectiveness of this routine but I hate to be skeptical of something I haven’t tried myself.

THE MYSTERY OF SEX TRANSMUTATION

Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires.

Napoleon Hill – Think and Grow Rich

What are we without sexual desire?

Think about it, whats the purpose of life but to create new life? We’re a little different than other species because we have evolved brains that give us the ability to think. When you cage a bull or a dog whose only purpose is to pass their genes on to their offspring they will constantly try to find a way out. In our case, we find ways to transfer that energy into more productive or destructive alternatives.

The word ‘Transmutation’ means to transfer a form of energy into another. When I talk about “Sex energy transmutation” I literally mean switching your thought pattern from a sexual nature to a productive one. Napoleon Hill says sexual energy can be transferred to develop keenness of imagination, courage, willpower, persistence, and creativity.

Sex Energy Transmutation does not mean you have to repress or eliminate your desire for physical affection. All it means is that you can find other outlets to fulfill those desires outside of physical

Think and Grow Rich is widely known as one of the best selling success books of all time so there’s really no point in doing a recap on the book because you could find it somewhere else. What I will do is break down what I believe to be the most controversial part of the book and let you decide if you want to read it. (if you haven’t already)

The Science of Story Telling

Why are we innately drawn to good stories? What makes a story great?… In today’s book of the Day, ‘The Science of Storytelling’ – Will Storr explains how to capture the attention of the subconscious mind using simple psychology tricks!

Before I really get into it, we must grasp how big of an impact telling stories has had on our species over time. One theory even states that language evolved as a way of gossiping (telling stories about other people). Although language was better utilized for social cooperation, I’m sure it didn’t hurt to know who had a crush on who in the village.

How to get people’s attention.

Will Storr says that to grab someone’s attention we must create a feeling of ‘drastic change’. Think of clickbait titles, for example, if I really wanted to get your attention at the beginning of this post I could have said something like ” She left me and never coming back” or “I died today”. Although it wouldn’t make sense I’d at least get your attention just enough to get you to read the next line.

Our brains have evolved to register change as a sign of danger, so when you create a feeling of massive change, you receive massive attention.

Who’s really in control?

After reading this book, I gained a lot of perspective on how many forces are acting on us without us noticing. Right away, I can think of gravity, air resistance, friction, and so on… I failed to realize that we can let our minds be just as powerful as these other forces. Think of a patient with schizophrenia, they can’t tell the difference between reality and their hallucinations because their mind has taken over their perception of the world. The point I’m trying to make is that it doesn’t matter how good a story sounds in your head, you can only make it good by painting a clear picture for the reader and letting their mind do the rest.

Personal Thoughts

Although it’s not in my plans to become an author or screenwriter, I’ve always been curious about how certain people become good at telling jokes or stories. The truth is that this book won’t make you good at either one. It will just give you a ‘game plan’ to formulate your stories in a way that keeps people engaged and curious. I enjoyed this book mainly because I like to learn about psychology and it gave me ideas for future posts. It’s never been harder to get attention than it is right now with social media, if you understand how psychology works you’ll be able to leverage that to your advantage.

Ps: I made a TikTok using some of these attention grabbing tactics and it blew up with 3.8M views.

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